"What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re not talking about telling them not to jump out of the bushes in a ski mask and grab the nearest female. We’re talking about the way we teach boys that masculinity is measured by power over others, and that they aren’t men unless they “get some.” We’re talking about teaching men (and women) that it’s not okay to laugh at jokes about rape and abuse. We’re talking about telling men that a lack of “No” doesn’t mean “Yes,” that if a woman is too drunk to consent they shouldn’t touch her, that dating someone - or even being married to someone - does not mean automatic consent. We’re talking about teaching boys to pay attention to the girl they’re with, and if she looks uncomfortable to stop and ask if she’s okay, because sometimes girls don’t know how to say stop in a situation like that. We’re talking about how women have the right to change their mind. Even if she’s been saying yes all night, if she says no, that’s it. It’s over. That’s what we mean when we say “Teach men not to rape."
Dear Micos, (TW: Rape)
People like you are the reason my rapist thought he didn’t rape me. People like you are the reason I was blamed for being raped. People like you are the reason I broke down crying in the parking lot. You have seriously upset multiple people at this establishment, and potentially assured a rapist that he/she is not in the wrong. Fuck you all very much.
There’s a party in my kitchen. I just heard “Am I asking for it if I wear spandex shorts?”… No, no one asks for it… words can’t express my frustration with the world.
friendly reminder to everyone:
house-of-blue:
toughfemme:
if you have to talk someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you coerce someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you wear someone down into agreeing to have sex with you
that is not fucking consent.
No matter the reason
(via monocotsgonewild)
"
NO MEANS NO
Not now means NO
I have a boy/girlfriend means NO
Maybe later means NO
No thanks means NO
You’re not my type means NO
Fuck off means NO
I’d rather be alone right now means NO
Don’t touch me means NO
I really like you but… means NO
Let’s just go to sleep means NO
I’m not sure means NO
You’ve been/I’ve been drinking means NO
Silence means NO
DATE RAPE= NOT UNDERSTANDING NO
"
TW: Rape culture
The prevalence of rape culture in my work place is highly disturbing. People are actually blaming a girl for having a man put his hands on her without her consent. She was told “don’t go out if you can’t handle drunk guys” and “you’re overreacting”. How the FUCK is it her fault that someone else did something to her without her permission? I am absolutely disgusted with my coworkers. The victim blaming is so bad that she has to take time off of work. I am so angry with everyone. Apparently the vast majority of the people I work with could use a crash course in rape culture and why victim blaming is wrong. I’m furious with everyone right now. People are seriously telling this girl that the guy was not in the wrong for touching her, that she was asking for it by going to a party. What. The. Fuck.
